Resolutions and goals

[redthedragon]

1. Eat properly.
A note: I eat well, when I remember to. This is more a commentary on my memory and my unbelievable cheapness than anything else. I no longer have to buy myself lunch with the money i scraped together over four years. My dad is going to pay for it. I want to stop skipping meals so I don't spend money now that it's not a necessity.

2. Stop complaining about the things I actively chose for myself.
No more whining about my damn dog barking at night. She's my dog.
No more whining about my homework. I decided I wanted to take difficult classes.
No more whining about my self imposed writing ban. I know I need it.
No more whining about my headaches and stomach aches. If I remembered to eat and drink on a regular basis they wouldn't be so bad.

3. Stop being dehydrated.
Apparently I'm chronically dehydrated. Hopefully i will Stop.

4. Practice speaking Spanish more.
Simple enough. I went to Cancun over christmas break because my grandparents gave my dad their room because my grandfather needed a surgery during when they were scheduled to have a trip. I couldn't speak more than a couple basic sentences. it was embarrassing and I was pissed about it, so I'll just. get better.

5. Cut back on the anger.
A goal every year. I have anger issues.

6. Cut back on the whining.
I shouldn't need pity and attention every time something goes slightly wrong. Yet I do. It's frankly pathetic and I do not like it.

7. Practice making collars.
Self evident.

8. Pick up cross country again.
Has to wait until its warm enough I can be outside without my hands and feet going numb, but during the spring I intend to pick it up again.

9. Learn to sew properly.
Simple: seamstress expensive, me cheap. rather not have to get all my clothes modified by someone else, and it looks like if I want to look classy ever I'm going to need to modify my clothes so they don't make me look like a blimp. For fuck's sake, i'm barely a hundred pounds soaking wet (I need to eat better), but I just. Look so extraordinarily flabby that when I first took my shirt off in front of one of my friends, her reaction was "WHOA you have a NICE body?" and that's. A bit embarrassing, honestly.

10. Stop being burnt out, and learn to take proper breaks.
Am currently working on this one. But I like to grind myself into nothing, and I need to stop that.

Comments

[yvannairie]

Obviously you know yourself better than I do, but out of curiosity, what's your gameplan for "reducing" anger/bad mood/"whining"? Often simply resolving to "be happier" doesn't actually do anything to help your conflict resolution skills -- anger is a response, not a trait.

[redthedragon]

I could have been a lot clearer there; I meant that I was going to work on mitigating my anger response and stop complaining as much outwardly. I can't change the actual emotions, but I can change the way I respond to them and try to prioritize "good" outcomes (like attention, etc) for good responses, rather than things like overreaction to frustrations or other, similar stimuli.

[yvannairie]

That sounds reasonable :) I don't personally think there's anything wrong with complaining out loud, it's all about finding those productive ways to complain >v>)

[mllemusketeer]

I did city college costuming classes for basic sewing skills and then have embraced a "scream and leap" philosophy for the rest of it. Seems to work.

I highly recommend getting a sewing machine. Mine is an antique Singer Featherweight; it just stitches in a straight line, but it's incredibly hardy and easy to maintain (It's 80+ years old; its previous owner was my grandmother. It still works just fine.) It will sew anything. It will sew giant wads of cloth. It will sew leather. It will sew if you thread it wrong. It will sew your fingers. And it doesn't have a damnfool computer buggering up the whole process. In other words, it is the perfect sewing machine for a dumbass like me. And they seem to go for ~400 bucks (I saw one for 200, after a quick google) online. Cheaper ones exist. They...probably will develop more problems, and I know nothing about them, but might be worth looking into if you're not a fan of dropping that much when starting out.

And now that I've infodumped at you about sewing machines, I'll just retreat back into the bushes.

[redthedragon]

Tysm!! I have some old sewing machine somewhere, but I have no idea how to use it, lmao. At the moment i'm at the "watch YouTube videos and then do it by hand anyway" stage.
Once I get my drivers license i'm planning on taking a class though!

[mllemusketeer]

Do not under any circumstances put your finger under the bit that goes up and down, because you will sew your finger.

Otherwise, you'll probably be ok