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[redthedragon]

(salt about anti-kink bullshit from earlier this year. no i am not friends with this person any more but not because they understood why i didn't like it)

One of these days I'll get around to writing the really morally upsetting things I find hot as fuck because I specifically haven't been able to let go of how fucking mad I was that someone objected on moral grounds to fucking ddlg but then was like "yeah i'm into gore, it's not a big deal" when i pointed out that i wasnt going to be friends with them because of that because under any moral standard where kinks indicate something about the kind of sex crimes people are into doing irl, i would be morally Way Worse than a ddlg kinkster and I know it.
Like, idk, dude, I'm sitting here on a rape kink six miles wide and a necro kink nearly that big, I think torture is hot, and when i see internal organs I want to bite them. I don't have any interest in that happening to *me* but I sure do like the idea of doing it to someone else in roleplay. If you're gonna start equating that shit to real life you better treat me with the same kind of disgust as you do like, idk, fucking Ted Bundy or whatever, because that's about what my sex thoughts look like.

the only thing stopping me from this, for the record, is that I am a little awkward around writing smut.

Comments

[yvannairie]

At least it's nice when they admit to the hypocrisy. One set of rules for me, another for thee. The lack of self-awareness over the relative badness of things can get ridiculous.

IDK I wonder if people with physically impossible kinks (or what they consider physically impossible -- gutting someone and eating the organs raw is entirely possible and you need to be pretty sheltered to not realize that) get blinded easier to their nature as fantasies. Like, because it would be impossible for someone to do IRL it's effectively "safer" in the heads, as opposed to it being so easy to go groom a kid or something, never mind the fact that ABDL is specifically about adults acting kiddy.

[redthedragon]

honestly i just think they didnt want to admit to themself that they had the capacity to do harm so like, all kinks were bad Except The Ones They Thought They Shared With Me. like i also really dont think i got across the top-dommy nature of All My Kinks, and with anti-kink people they tend to be reaaal weird about people who want to do kink on other people instead of wanting people to do kink on them.

but also some people think sex crimes are worse than murder so?????? i really don't know.

I think you might be onto something with the physical impossibility thing, though. Like I am uncomfortably aware of how not-physically-impossible most of the real intense kinks I have are, but I think- i mean part of it is that basically everyone else with a murder kink i've ever met is apparently a bottom. You can only *get* murdered once, and stuff, but it is not that hard to go find out what it looks like to murder someone else. There is a lot of weird stuff on the internet. So like, the whole "hard kink and gore kink as impossible fantasy" just doesnt sit right at all with me but i didn't even *think* about the fact that people who come at it from the other direction might find it to do so.

[sexytronians]

Anti ddlg people really annoy me. Because their reasons are often based on a complete misunderstanding of how the kink works. Or sometimes more of the usual 'men's* sexuality is inherently predatory, women* don't have sexual autonomy or desire'.

Which makes me want to write more ddlg out of spite too tbh.


*Well people who antis perceive as men and women because the role of daddy and little girl aren't necessarily gendered.

[redthedragon]

this one was explicitly "ddlg is kink for people who want to abuse children and have someone act as a stand in but means that the people involved are exclusively attracted to children and not adults," even though that literally doesn't even make sense by their own standards.

agreed, though. anti ddlg people are so... very... incREDIBLy fucking irritating. Just Stop It.
I don't even LIKE ddlg, incest (and thereby daddy kink, which reads as like parental incest) is one of my biggest squicks on this fucking planet and i don't really Do soft smut because it's just not interesting for me, but like. God the people who make a thing about not liking it are so fucking irritating. Just say you don't know what you're talking about and get the fuck out so the big kids can have fun in fucking peace for one fucking moment please.